Unfortunately, society today is quite a cruel one and manages to astound me nearly everyday.
I just saw Beyoncé, of all people, getting slated by other woman because she posted a photo of her sipping a glass of red wine and women jumped on the bandwagon questioning whether she was putting her children in danger if she was breastfeeding. Now, these women don’t even know if she is breastfeeding, let alone whether she drank the whole drink or whether she was having a night off with her husband so wouldn’t breastfeed until the morning. I was told by my NHS nurse that one drink wouldn’t even hurt (yes I asked if it was allowed).
Another case was on This morning the other day, when Binky from I think Made in Chelsea, stated she didn’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in public and she was insulted for this comment.. by who? WOMEN!!
I am writing this blog to express my anger as to why women slate other women… especially a mother to another mother. I was lucky to be able to breastfeed for 8 weeks before unfortunately moving back to Cyprus, dried myself up. However, I never really felt comfortable breastfeeding in public, because I see my boobs as private. My daughter also didn’t like being covered up because she has always been an alert baby and likes to look around, so limited me to do it in public. However, if she was hungry and I hadn’t expressed enough before leaving, I would never deny her food.
I also had a drink every now and then after breastfeeding and expressing (only one of course) but I am happy to admit that and if people tell me that makes me a bad mother, try and tell me you never ate or drank anything that you were told may not be the best throughout your whole pregnancy and whilst breastfeeding. The list is endless! Don’t tell me you never had spicy food in a year, or soft cheese during pregnancy or an alcohol beverage (not everybody knows when they fall pregnant for the first few weeks sometimes)
Women should be complimenting each other, helping one another. Some women aren’t even able to breastfeed for several reasons. Some may even choose not too because they don’t like the idea of breastfeeding but that does NOT make them a bad mother! Every mother knows best for their child. Yes, we have the NHS and guidelines to help but that doesn’t mean you have to follow them religiously.
Let me know your thoughts